Have you ever looked at someone in your life and thought, she really has it all together. Then you start spending time with her and realize that she too has issues she struggles with? Then for awhile you are happy since misery loves company. Oh, but then you spot this lady over here and she drives the perfect car, physically is a 10, is volunteer of the year and gave birth at home with no drugs. So the pressure is back on you because your crazy life makes the drama in soap operas look weak.
Oh, doesn't that cycle just wear you out? I can remember sitting next to my friends at a Women of Faith conference thinking "if only these women knew me". At that time in my life I was spinning desperately out of control and so every attempt I made to get closer to God, like attending one of the largest women's conferences, the enemy would put on his work clothes and go to work on me. Attacking my self esteem, my self worth and taunting me with my past. So I'd give up and soon my past would become my present again. And again.
I've been blogging since winter of '07 and I tell you I have learned to be myself here. I am real here. I would never want you to think I have my act together because quite simply, I don't. I know the days I try to walk out of my house looking perfect, my imperfections are just waiting to hear my key turn in the door and put me back in my place.
Now please don't get being real confused with telling all. There are parts of my past that God hasn't asked me to share here or anywhere and I hope He never does. So to be real, does not require you to stand in front of your church handing out a detailed rap sheet of your past. It's about learning to be real with our Creator, ourselves and each other.
When I started writing on this blog, I decided that there is no way I'm going to pretend here with you. That's why in the last month alone I've had posts titled, "What you see is not what my family gets" , "Complete Chaos" and "Desperate Housewife". By being real with you, I can not begin to tell you how different and better things have been for me and my family.
When I asked for help with my house you responded with love, not judgement. There are no dirty clothes except what we wore today. I sweep everyday and clean the bathroom once a week. I make my bed when I get out of it and I try my hardest to meal plan. My point is, if I had not been real with you all, I couldn't have received your help through the comments you left!
I want to be a woman that is real. Real to you and real with you. Real to myself and most importantly, I want Christ to be so real in my life that He's all you can see. For years Satan and I played "Satan Says" which is similar to "Simon Says". What he commanded I do, I did until one day I was done. Done with all the pretending and putting other woman on pedestals they themselves didn't even want to be up on.
Ladies, let's learn to be real with one another. So many of us have a past that is dark and so full of the wrong choices and yet Christ's death on the cross covered them all. He didn't just die for the minor sinners. He died for the married woman who cheated on her husband. The woman who had an abortion. The woman who is addicted to drugs. The woman who watches porn. The woman who lies. The woman who thinks she is real, but has no idea of who she really is.
The next book God has hand picked for us to do for our Yes to God Tuesday study is another awesome one and like the one we're doing now, it is accompanied by a Bible study. I will be honest with you and tell you that I have only read portions of it. I started to read it this summer, but decided to wait. It was hard to put down, but I like to read along with you. The title alone got me and I knew this is the book God had in mind for us.
I have to tell you ladies, this author is the real deal. Real as only God can make her. We have been "blogging and e-mail buddies" for awhile now and after meeting this summer have become friends. Last night on the phone she suggested we pray over the study and we so we did. 1500 miles apart we lifted each other, our families and you up to God. WOW!
Here is what my friend Amy said in a blog post after reading this book:
Thank you for unmasking, as you put it, the "great charade of womanhood." Your honesty helped me look at the places where I pretend rather than risk being real.
I'm so excited about what God is going to do!
Following the end of our current study we will begin the new one on
Tuesday, September 23, 2008.
On this date we will be discussing the Chapter 1 and also the study.
Okay, wait no longer. You may already know her or this may be your first visit, but please meet her by clicking here to go to her blog.
She's expecting you, so make sure to leave an encouraging word for her. Also, if you decide to join us on Tuesday, September 23rd, let us know! All are welcome to join this study so buy the book and get ready to be changed for the better!
(check with your local Christian book store for a copy)