Thursday, April 14, 2011

Missing out...for nothing

As a Mom, I want my kids to grow up to be respectful adults.
And in order to not have spoiled kids, parents must discipline their children.
Give them consequences that sink in deep enough that there won't be a next time.

This weekend is my son's first prom and he isn't able to go.
And honestly, it's killing me.
When I think of all the fun he'll be missing out on it breaks my heart.
I want to put the consequences on hold and just tell him to go and make good memories and choices this time, but I know this season of discipline is best for him.

He's my only son and I have thought of the day where he'd be dressed in a tux looking handsome.  And then I'd make him mad at me because I want just one more picture of him and his beautiful date. But because of his choices I'm stuck with heartache instead of pictures and probably a teenager that will try his best to be unpleasant.

This has me thinking of all the choices I've made as an adult and I wonder...
what have I missed out on from my Father
What plans has God had for me that I sabatoged for nothing and had miserable consequences instead of blessing?
Oh Lord...forgive me, nothing is worth choosing sin over You.

If Aaron is rude this weekend, perhaps I'll try squeezing into my prom dress from the 80's and ask him to dance with me.
That should adjust his attitude.


Cindy said...

Oh Lelia, I'm dealing with a few issues with my teenage son as well (he's 17). Only he can bring such joy and heartache into my life and right now it's a little more heartache but choices have to be dealt with.

I'll be praying for your son along with mine, and for us as moms!

Pamela (His maidservant) said...

It is so hard when these events run into our discipline time. I'm sorry for you and for him but he will learn from it. Hang in there mom...


Jill Beran said...

I love your closing comments - they made me laugh!!! You'll have to post pics if that happens!!! Seriously though your words are so true!! I don't think they realize following through on discipline is as hard for us to do as it is for them to endure!! Just today I was talking with my husband about our oldest son, who's only 8, but has really been trying to spread his wings and take on a bit of an attitude. Motherhood is a high calling and a hard one too!! Praying for you,

Danielle said...

I remember hearing, "This hurts me more than it hurts you." As a kid, it was like, "WHAT-EVA!" Then I had my own daughter. Oh, the pain! Until you truly step into the parent role, you can't understand... then you don't want to understand.LOL

I would love pics of that if you do it. heehe! Love ya, girl!

Beth.. One Blessed Nana said...

if you put that dress on and dance with him, we want pictures!!

Jennifer said...

I want pictures too!! HAHA! Love it... WE are in a season, or at least at the beginning of one, where both of my boys are pressing their boundaries, and I have to say I'm not liking it! Not one bit....Proud of you for following through, even when it hurts.

Rilda Peel said...

God's wisdom guide you and His strength be thine. Count it all JOY comes to mind although that is something difficult to feel right now. I have been where you are although not quite the same situation. Knowing God's way and not obeying would truly be the worst that could be for all. I am proud of you for doing the right thing. God richly bless you and yours, *U*

Kim said...

Parenting is not for "light-weights" is it???

I would LOVE to see the pics of you in your prom dress dancing with Aaron! ;)

Kathy S. said...

Hi Lelia,
I have been browsing your blog a little. So funny to me that I never came over here. It appears we started blogging the same time. I landed on blogs November 2007 and ended up at She Speaks in July 2008.

I so wish I was going to She Speaks again this year. So many I'd like to meet face to face. But I am glad you get to go and that we connected on facebook!

I will look forward to see what God is going to do there this year. I am going to inquire about ordering the cds from the conference. I still listen often to some from '08.

Wondering too, how is your son doing? Will pray for your family now.